Satisfaction: Feeling Content with What You've Got


Until very recently, I never knew that ‘door envy’ was a possibility in my life. My friend, who also lives in Capitol Hill, recently got herself new front door. She had been talking about it for a while but the exquisiteness of this door didn't quite hit me until I saw it in the flesh. Or wood, I guess.

This door is magnificent. It has a great little window. Meticulous hardware. A beautiful and very stately deep evergreen color. Seriously, the door is perfect.

There was just one problem with my friend’s new perfect door. I wanted one too. All of a sudden, my door didn't feel good enough. It was the wrong color, it didn’t have a window, and the hardware was unspeakably and unremarkably standard. 

This door has taught me a great lesson about contentment, satisfaction, and the feeling of enough-ness.

It took me longer than I’d like to admit to realize that this was a wonderful and important metaphor about feeling satisfied with what I’ve already got. In coveting my neighbor’s door, I’m completely forgetting the fact that I myself have my own. I am lucky enough to have a roof over my head. My health. Wonderful family and friends all around me. A career I’m passionate about.  Etc…

In a world where we’re constantly fed messages that the grass is always greener (thanks a lot, Tinder) and that we constantly need to update, buy, change, and catch up with the latest new hot thing, it’s not always easy to remember to be satisfied with what you’ve got.

Contentment comes from a place of ‘enough-ness’, a place of inherent satisfactoriness versus the place of fear-based scarcity and lack of craving.  Unlike this Rolling Stones’ song, Sublime hit the nail on the head with this hit and these particular lyrics: “life is short so love the one you’ve got, ‘cause you might get run over or you might get shot.”

In my case, life is short so love the door you’ve got ‘cause it serves its purpose beautifully and it’s time to remember that the important things lie beneath the surface.

In this particular instance, when I took the time to count my blessings, to recognize that I have so much to celebrate, so much to be grateful for, and so much to find deep and present satisfaction in, I laughed at myself for immediately wanting to change something that’s perfectly fine. I love beautiful things, and yes, this door is spectacular, but right now, it's just not something I need to fixate on or obsess about. 

Will I buy a new door for the house one day? Most likely, yes! Does it need to happen tomorrow? No. Changing and updating things whether they be your front door, your relationship, your career, your haircut, is an important and inevitable part of life. But I challenge you, and myself for that matter, to do so with a deeper intention, making a change from a place of satisfaction, gratitude, and ultimately deep contentment.

To find greater contentment in your own life circumstances, or to work together to make intentional changes, book a session with me to right here. I look forward to it!